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(DIGITAL) Platonic Co-Parenting: A Guide to Reimagining the Nuclear Family
"If the game is all made up, why can't we change it?"
If you read Subverting the Game and thought, "yes, but HOW do I actually do this?"—this zine is for you.
There are infinite ways to do family. So many of us are realizing the nuclear family structure isn't serving us. This guide is about one way to reimagine it: platonic co-parenting—the shift from romantic partners to platonic co-parents.
This is the guidebook based of how my co-parent and I changed our relationship to change the conditions of the game within our own nuclear family. Not by striving for the Above. Not by accepting being crushed Below. But by finding a third path: side by side, building liberation in our own home.
First things first: this isn't a blueprint for restructuring your life.
What I'm sharing is a mix of lived experience, agreements that worked for us, and reflections you can adapt for your own context. To help you along the way, I'll also give you some reflection questions and space for journaling.
Some of what's here may resonate immediately. Other parts you might toss out. That's good. Platonic co-parenting isn't about copying someone else's structure; it's about experimenting, revising, and telling the truth about what actually works for your family.
Inside this guide, you'll find:
Agreements and frameworks we use for decision-making and conflict
Parenting values that anchor us when things get messy
Sample scripts (like the email we sent to community) for how to communicate your shift
Logistics of a nest home and finances that share the nitty gritty of our setup
Community as extended family and real examples of how this plays out in our lives
Guidelines for introducing partners without undermining your kids' sense of stability
Reflections on power, race, gender, and labor—because platonic co-parenting doesn't exist outside the larger systems we're all tangled in
Reflection questions and journaling space to help you discern your own path
Use this guide as:
A reflection journal for clarifying what you want
conversation starter with your co-parent
A framework to draft your own agreements
A reminder that you're not alone in re-architecting your family
This guide is specifically for people who:
Started as long-term romantic partners
Are considering or navigating a shift to platonic co-parenting
Know there has to be another way
Are ready to run experiments in liberation
This is by no means the only way. Take what works, leave the rest. Let's reimagine together.
Digital PDF: $15 | Print Edition: $25 | Bundle: $35
"If the game is all made up, why can't we change it?"
If you read Subverting the Game and thought, "yes, but HOW do I actually do this?"—this zine is for you.
There are infinite ways to do family. So many of us are realizing the nuclear family structure isn't serving us. This guide is about one way to reimagine it: platonic co-parenting—the shift from romantic partners to platonic co-parents.
This is the guidebook based of how my co-parent and I changed our relationship to change the conditions of the game within our own nuclear family. Not by striving for the Above. Not by accepting being crushed Below. But by finding a third path: side by side, building liberation in our own home.
First things first: this isn't a blueprint for restructuring your life.
What I'm sharing is a mix of lived experience, agreements that worked for us, and reflections you can adapt for your own context. To help you along the way, I'll also give you some reflection questions and space for journaling.
Some of what's here may resonate immediately. Other parts you might toss out. That's good. Platonic co-parenting isn't about copying someone else's structure; it's about experimenting, revising, and telling the truth about what actually works for your family.
Inside this guide, you'll find:
Agreements and frameworks we use for decision-making and conflict
Parenting values that anchor us when things get messy
Sample scripts (like the email we sent to community) for how to communicate your shift
Logistics of a nest home and finances that share the nitty gritty of our setup
Community as extended family and real examples of how this plays out in our lives
Guidelines for introducing partners without undermining your kids' sense of stability
Reflections on power, race, gender, and labor—because platonic co-parenting doesn't exist outside the larger systems we're all tangled in
Reflection questions and journaling space to help you discern your own path
Use this guide as:
A reflection journal for clarifying what you want
conversation starter with your co-parent
A framework to draft your own agreements
A reminder that you're not alone in re-architecting your family
This guide is specifically for people who:
Started as long-term romantic partners
Are considering or navigating a shift to platonic co-parenting
Know there has to be another way
Are ready to run experiments in liberation
This is by no means the only way. Take what works, leave the rest. Let's reimagine together.
Digital PDF: $15 | Print Edition: $25 | Bundle: $35